Thursday, January 21, 2010

Shopping oh shopping...

Seriously... this has been the most difficult time to decide not to shop for a month, but I guess its testing me.... and I want to prove to myself I can do it. I just found out my hubby is going to be gone for 4 weeks instead of 3...and I seriously just want to cry!! (it's only the fourth day..and this whole time I thought it was 3 weeks). I'm just upset, and when I get upset and bored I want to do the one thing that makes me happy..and that is shop. I don't know why that is and I don't know why I feel the need to. Its weird. When I lived in Portland, I lived literally 5 minutes from the mall...walking distance. my apartment complex was named after the was ridiculous. I guess I just got in the habit of shopping when bored. Whenever I had nothing to do, or had a break in my day, I would just walk over to the mall in 5 seconds and shop. Whether it be "window shop" would always end up in a purchase. Since I moved to my new city...I think my habit has fallowed. TJ maxx and Ross are super close, and whenever I have nothing to do that's where I go...because thats what I always did before!! I don't think its a compulsive shopping disorder by any means... I just think its a horrible habit that I have developed and it's hard to ignore!! It gets my mind off's a passion so it makes me happy... I can focus my attention on that for a couple hours and I'm happy. That is until I spend $100.00 and realize "shit, there goes a half days work! "

Now that my hubby is gone, I have all this free time. I haven't shopped for ANY UNNECESSARY items....which is great....but I'm so temped its not even funny. Its like I almost pull into the TJmaxx parking lot without even thinking "oh not supposed to spend any money right now". I'm at this weird point though...where I want to control it... and I want to save money!! Its not that I'm broke by any means...but people do get broke...and buying unnecessary things will get you there.

I think more than anything I'm just frustrated with my hubby being gone...and I want to make myself happy with my favorite thing!! does anyone else ever feel this way??



  1. You've got the "retail therapy" bug too, huh? Lately, I've been trying to shop in my own closet. I'll spend a couple of hours putting outfits together and hanging them up so they're ready to go...or I'll actually make a list where I write down which outfits to wear. Another good thing is I can make some "dream outfits" that incorporate items that are similar to what I have in my own closet. Hope that helps! =)

  2. thank you Vanessa!! good tips! first i need to start with cleaning my closet a little...i will be more motivated to actually go in there and play! haha

  3. Heeey! For a long time I've been in a long distance relationship with my boyfriend (now living together though!) and I can just go back in my mind to that time and feel the frustration of being apart when you don't want to be. Every time we left eachother it just felt so horrible and dissapointing. I remember very clearly that I also wanted to keep myself busy with things that kept my mind of it, like shopping! So I completely understand what you mean.
    I guess it's just about changing your habbits and finding a different thing to get your mind off it. Good luck :D

  4. I love shopping so much i always want to shop in my free time too. Instead of going 2 the mall or other big stores i like to go to thrift stores because you can find a lot of unique things there and you can take hours going through the racks!

  5. Whenever I feel like that, or I am running low on money but I really want something new. I go to the store and pick out some things to update something I already have. Like some studs to put on a jacket or a shirt, or some rosettes to sew on a shirt, it's fun and takes your mind off things and it's wayyyyy cheaper then actually buying new clothes!

  6. all your ideas are GREAT!! i just need to be creative, and think of cheap ways to get my fix!! thank you all!