I don't know about anyone else... but WHY is it that being a "quiet" person such a bad thing?? I have always been a quiet person. Naturally i am just on the shy side, and I am a listener rather than a talker. I personally don't think there is anything wrong with that at all. But for some reason its a big deal to everyone else. Its always been a huge annoyance...or "pet peeve" for me. I hate hearing... "Carah, why are you so quiet!" "Jeez Carah, are you bored?" or "That's the most I have heard Carah talk in a long time!"... Seriously... SO annoying. I'm NOT a crazy center of attention..please-listen-to-my-amazing-story type of person. You would never say to someone... "Jeez, why are you so loud and obnoxious" or "wow, that's the first time you have shut up in a long time!!"
I guess that's why shy people think they have such a personality flaw. I have always felt dumb for being quiet.. because people make such a big deal out of it. I LOVE having conversations, and i like talking to people. But when I'm in HUGE groups... i sit back, and observe my surroundings... I DON'T understand what is wrong with that.
I don't know, maybe it makes people feel uncomfortable. I am NOT judgemental AT ALL... i would consider myself the least judgemental person I know. Maybe its because i hate being judged myself. I'm not really sure.
I guess I'm just tired of feeling judged for being the person that I am. I AM judged because people say things about it all the time. This has always been an issue that has bugged the crap out of me.... ALWAYS. Even other quiet people call me quiet. What is the big freakin deal. I always open up to people that i feel comfortable around and i talk alot and make a fool out of myself! lol. Maybe the reason I don't open up to you is because I DON'T feel comfortable around you! We could always take you into consideration... maybe YOUR personality doesn't do anything for ME. but I'm not sitting here judging you about it.
I guess i just needed to vent. let me know if anyone knows how i feel... i am sure more people feel this way than i think.
anyways... thanks for listening.... and sorry about the bad grammar... like i said... it was venting!! haha ^_~
xoxo,
Carah Amelie
Hallo Carahamelie03. I like soo much your viedos chanel youtube.
ReplyDeleteI feel the exact same way!! people are always telling me the same thing.
ReplyDeleteI couldn't had said it better myself!...I feel you. lol
ReplyDeleteI struggle with that too. I'm quiet, observant and feel the most alone in a big group of people. But at the same time, I can be loud and animated when I'm with my closest friends and family. Look at it this way -- a quiet person graces others with his/her presence and is very selective about those he/she opens up to. Being extroverted isn't a negative thing by any means. Extroverted people are intricate and interesting in their own right. I do, however, think that it's a rare privilege to know and be around a quiet person when they've opened up. Our inner circle may not be as big as others' but in my opinion, it's far greater.
ReplyDeleteP.S. I'm going to Portland in a few weeks. Where are the best places to shop? =)
thanks Vanessa! that is very true what you said! :) Portland has some great places. if you like the more eclectic feel hawthorn street on the east side is great!! saturday market is great too which is located under the broadway bridge!! the best mall would be downtown probably its called pioneer square! :) hope this helps!
ReplyDeleteI get the same thing because I'm a quiet person who likes to think and observe the people around me.. wow your so chatty today amanda or what's wrong, your so quiet or they think because I'm quiet that they can put it over me. But the latest thing is because I'm quiet I get accused of being stuck up and that I must think I'm better than them when really I don't.. its annoying and to be honest I can't stand obnoxious people they get under my skin and irritate the crap out of me.
ReplyDeletei know Cry Envie... i get the snobby thing too. My husband always tells me to just smile alot. he knows im quiet... and said that when i smile alot i look less snobby, hahaha..which actually does make a differance i have noticed. >_<
ReplyDeleteI always have been that quiet person that always doesn't have much to tell en always sits in the background, people can be wirley judgemental on that, i have this like personality stuck on me that evryone thinks i'm that introvert person. It even composed my study! I study to work whit kids in the future, i love playing around kids and being around them, even my teachers don't believe i can do that just becaus in class i LIKE to listen what the teachers say.
ReplyDeleteThis introvert person is wirley invecting my life, i wirley need to come out of my shell!
But what other people think i try to care less about, cause they ALWAYS have something to judge you about and not just about this thing.
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OMG.. I completely agree with you. I get that quite often, it's so annoying!! Glad to see someone else feels the same way.
ReplyDeleteHey cousin! I get the same thing! I think you have an amazing personality. People are probably just insecure.
ReplyDeleteI completely understand where you are coming from. I constantly feel like there is something wrong with me because I am quiet, and people comment on it! Those people are clearly insecure about their own personality so they put down and question other peoples.
ReplyDeleteIt's like being quiet is WRONG and not the correct way to act, but how is talking constantly about yourself and boasting ( most of the time, over exaggerating) about something that has happened to them the RIGHT way to act?
grrr so annoying! it's like being different from some people is a crime!
(love your videos btw)
xxxxxx
OMG. this is how i feel whe im around my husbands family, they are very talkative and outgoing people, and im like always just listening and laughing with them, but yeah they gey really surpised when they start to hear me talk. I feel you girl and i dont belive its a bad thing either, my husband is very talkative and outgoing and we both get along great! :)
ReplyDeleteI totally feel the same way as you, and agree with what you said 100%.
ReplyDeletei am supper chatty with my bestfriends but when i am with strangers i like just sit there quiet trieing to see if their like creepers lol and then thier all rude like whats wrong with u ur so boring are u sic all that crap it gets so annoying
ReplyDeleteI feel you! And everyone else who have said they are the same way. I am the type of person who can be really talkative and outgoing when I am having a one on one or I am with a couple of friends. But when I am in a big group of people, especially if I have never met them before I usually sit back and observe everybody. I never thought it was a big deal until people started bugging me about it. I like being a quiet person! That's who I am.
ReplyDeleteI know exactly what you mean! Just because I'm quiet in large groups of people and don't like being the center of attention doesn't mean I'm quiet ALL the time. And when people ask questions...so annoying. and what are you even supposed to say to that?? Glad to know I'm not alone though!
ReplyDeleteIm glad to know im not the only one. haha.. thanks ladies for all the feedback!!! ^_^
ReplyDeleteWOW... You just wrote a story of my life. You might be my long lost sister... LOL
ReplyDeleteYou are by far my FAVORITE person on youtube. Hair, fashion, and makeup... you do it all, and do it good! (im sure you heard that a million times) :)
Wow, judging from your videos I would've never thought you were a quiet person. I think people tend to think shy/quiet ppl probably are boring or have no personality, but just because you don't talk a lot in big groups doesn't mean that at all. My husband always gets this said about him too, but with me he's so outgoing, funny and a great person, other ppl actually have said to me, what do you two talk about? He's soo quiet...but we talk about everything! He's just not a group talker. So I totally know how you feel...you have a great personality and I think sometimes those talkative types can get a bit annoying and bore ppl too. Keep being yourself and live your life according to you, ppl will always have their opinions and you can never please everyone...just be true to yourself, and if that means being quiet...so be it.
ReplyDeletethanks Zara for the sweet comment!! im coming to accept the fact that im quiet, and not care so much about whether people like it or hate it. Im just going to be me, and usually the people that are worth my time get to know me and a more personal "outgoing" level, without judging me first. haha
ReplyDeleteHello there!
ReplyDeleteI'm glad I read this because I can definitely relate! I'm a quite person myself too. I've always thought something was wrong with me just because those around me always say the same thing like how they have said about you. It bugs the crap out of me and I never understood why until now. I'm just glad that I'm not the only one who feels this way. What bothers me the most is when people say that I'm shy but I honestly don't think I am. These are the kind of people that judge me for who I am not. I chose to not talk for a several of reasons. Like you, I like to listen to others more than talking, I'm an observant person, and I don't like to be in the center of an attention in big crowds. Sometimes I feel pressure to talk because I'm afraid of what others will think about me if I didn't say anything. And when I do talk, most of the time I end up making a fool out of myself. That's not who I am. After reading all these feedbacks, I'm glad to know that it's ok to be quiet and accept myself that way... regardless of what others say and think of me.
I just started watching your youtube channel, I am not in it for the makeup tips though, lol. I love your style! Your sketches are also amazing. Anyway I just wanted to add that I too am a somewhat quiet individual, I have learned to come out of my shell, only because I felt like I would not advance in my career if I could not be the social butterfly that I usually hide. I don't think there is anything wrong with being quiet though. People who talk all the time annoy the hell out of me as well. I think they feel extremely insecure so they have to hear themselves talk every waking minute!
ReplyDeleteHi carah..there is nothing wrong being quiet..and you know what there are 16 personality types(myer briggs)...then you can understand better its the personality type of yours that makes you so...you can check the link to find out yours personality type
ReplyDeletehttp://www.myersbriggs.org/my-mbti-personality-type/mbti-basics/the-16-mbti-types.asp
Hi Carah I am just starting to read your blog and came across this post. It's awesome to find someone that I can relate to! I wish I could tell everyone around me that has accused me of being too quiet just what you wrote. My mom is always saying that I'm "antisocial" because I don't participate or start conversations with people. I have been shy my entire life but those close to me know that I can talk a lot haha! I completely agree with you that sometimes I just enjoy sitting back and observing, especially with a huge group of people. I know some people, especially family members see it as rude that I don't talk to them so much or that I'm not so outgoing.. I wish they would just understand that that's not my intention at all.. I'm just a quiet person. :\ Thank you for this post though it was great!
ReplyDeleteomg yessss i totally agree with you. i have such a hard time with this. i feel like people give up on trying to get to know me, just because i'm shy at first. it's ridiculous. glad to know i'm not the only one though :] this post has really encouraged me to accept the way i am !
ReplyDeletei'm with you! people used to say that of me too. which i totally can't stand it. they just have to point you out!
ReplyDelete:) wendy
It's good to know that I'm not the only one. I mean, I can be a real goof ball in a small group of close friends or on stage (when playing music/acting), but when it comes to parties or large groups of strangers... I just sit back and people watch. To me, the world is just an interesting social experiment and I'd rather be the person taking notes, rather than participating... unless someone starts talking to me first. Which is strange, because I can type for hours via online networking & I.M. etc. Personally, I think being quiet is a blessing. :)
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